Messaging Lab

Better conversations begin with curiosity, specificity, and a little personality.

Skip the generic opener

Reference something from the person’s profile and ask a question that is easy—and interesting—to answer.

Keep a rhythm

Good messaging feels like an exchange, not an interview. Share something about yourself as you ask about the other person.

Know when to suggest a date

If conversation is flowing and both people are engaged, you do not need weeks of texting. A low-pressure invitation can clarify whether the connection works offline.